Learning To Love You More




Assignment #51
Describe what to do with your body when you die.

Carly Millis
Westlake, Ohio USA



I want to be divided, scattered, and remembered. I dont want to be buried underground; I want to become a part of the world around me. Id like to be cremated, and have my ashes divided amongst my husband, sister, and parents (if theyre still alive at that time). I dont want to dictate where they release them. They know me, and I want them to feel as though theyre putting me to rest where they feel comfortable, not where I direct. Perhaps they have a place special to them that I never even thought of.
However, I know the power of a physical reminder of a persons passing, so I would like to have a gravestone that my family can visit (even if my body isnt there). I dont want it in a graveyard; I want it hidden somewhere deep in the forest so that only those who care for me know where it is. If possible, Id like to have a small amount of my ashes mixed into the concrete of the gravestone so that a part of me truly IS there when family comes to visit. I dont want to know what my gravestone will say Ill leave that up to my family. They could define me better than I could, and would know what theyd want by which to remember me.
I just want my loved ones to feel closure. While I certainly have my opinions, I also want them to do whatever would make them feel the most comfortable. I guess Ill never know what actually happens.